This is one of my fears as a parent, that my child grows up rotten spoiled. As first time parents we have so many doubts on are we doing the right discipline to our child. I’ve read a very good material on this topic and i’m sharing it here.
Ways to avoid spoiling your kids
- Set clear, simple limits.
- Stick to those limits no matter what.
- Never give in to begging. Once you do, you’ve taught your child that begging works.
- Make your child convince you.
- Require that chores get done before fun.
- Don’t be afraid to disappoint. We hate to see our kids sad, but the Stones said it best: You can’t always get what you want. And studies show that learning to accept disappointment will give your child important coping skills to deal with emotional stress later in life.
- Let them work for what they want. Many experts believe that kids become spoiled when things come too easily, encouraging them to take those things for granted.
I personally love point 6 and 7. We’re trying to teach B.boy as early as now that there are some things that he could not get. We acknowledge that he has the right to be angry or disappointed but there are things that cannot be and he has to live with that.
Point #7 is so true in our case. Eventhough my parents can afford to buy some of the things we want, they opted to let us work for it. I can remember how we spend our summer vacation working in the hardware just so we can buy the shoes, bags, notebooks that we want come school time. We’ve come to learn that earning money is not a piece of cake and we should be spending it wisely. We’ve also learned to handle our finances properly at a very young age. Mama gives us our monthly allowance and we are to budget that because if we’re short, we will never be given extra.
I hope we will be able to impart that lesson to B.boy too. I know it breaks our hearts to see him cry or disappointed but if it’s for his own good in the long run, then we will do it.
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